Cinta Allah untuk kita

“Dan Apabila hamba-hambaKu bertanya kepadamu (Muhammad) tentang Aku, maka katakanlah sesungguhnya Aku dekat. Aku mengabulkan doa orang yang memohon apabila ia memohon kepadaKu. Maka hendaklah mereka memenuhi (panggilan/perintah)Ku, dan beriman kepadaKu agar mereka mendapat petunjuk (bimbingan)”. (Al-Baqarah: 186)

Distance, Time and space in a relationship

Selalu orang cakap kat kita, kalaw sampai satu peak dlm relationship, kita kena bagi space for our companion untuk uji sejauh mana kekuatan 'cinta' *yecks*. How does that thing works. OKay mcm ni..kononya kita asek contact balak masing2 24jam. Mula2 couple memang la rosey sume..time mandi, solat  and makan je stop contact *kalaw stop la*. Tapi bila dah lama2 buat mcm tu perasan tak text makin pendek, duration giving a call pun makin singkat. Orang2 tua kata dh takde manisnya lg dah bercinta. So the solution yg ramai couple guna untuk atasi masalah mcm ni is dengan cuba limitkan masa perhubungan through text or call satu hari sekali or few days once. Supaya love tu lg kuat lepas diuji sebegitu...

I disagree.

First, alasan cuba membuat jarak masa dalam komunikasi adalah dikatakan solution kepada mengurangkan kebosanan dalam perhubungan. sebenarnya benda ni tak selalunya dpt selesaikan masalah. Risiko utk companion tu curang pun agak tinggi sebenarnya. Ye lah,someone u dah biasa contact ngn org dr opposite gender, bermanja2..sekali tiba2 one day tu kne stop and buat gap masa. Maybe at first kita mcm rindu sgt nak bercakap2 n bermanja2..once dapat peluang..mmg terlepas la rindu, perasaan love kt psgn tu pun bertambah2. TAPI, macam mana kalaw tiba2 ada oragn ketiga ni dtg dlm hidup pasangan..bagi perhatian secukupnya, contact selalu..ambil tahu makan minum sakit pening pasangan tu. Berapa percentage yg kita boleh bg as kemungkinan yg pasangan tu akan tertarik ngn org ketiga yg sgt "sweet" la bg speenuh attention for him/her. Lagi banyak kan?

Second, untuk menguji the strength of love between the couple. Solution ni adlh hasil dr hipotesis yg kurang bijokk - Kalaw selalu rindu, sayang makin bertambah. Tu silap sangat tu. Abes kalaw sayang berkurang mcm mana? Love is something that we fight for, not something that is created for us untuk menguji pasangan 24/7. Kalaw takde masalah, jangan cari masalah. Kononnya nak menguji kekuatan 'cinta'..tp sebenarnya mengundang bala. Sentiasa cari jalan macam mana nak bahagiakan each other..bukannya cari masalah supaya dapat menambah perasaan sayang/cinta utk pasangan. Masalah tu is for us to overcome..bukan untuk dicari. Jangan bermain dengan api

hargai someone yg ada dalam hidup kita, yang rela fight utk kita. jangan kita rasa kita perlu uji org tu constantly supaya kita tawu mana position kita dalam hidup dier. Tu bukannya menguji, tp tu nak memuaskan hati sendiri..to feed your ego that you buat apa pun..ada org ygs edia fight for you. silap tu. Dua2 pihak sepatutnya fight for each other. Carilah manusia lain yg akan love you sama mcm person yg sekarang ni...impossible. kalaw ada pun, tak sama.

ada haritu tgok citer gossip girl..Blair punya mom Eleanor Waldorf ckp mcm ni - "Testing a good man who loves you never ends well"

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wahai hati...

tolong maafkan dia. Maafkan dia. Maafkan mereka. Lepaskan mereka pergi.
Takpe..bukan salah mereka. Qada' & qadar dah tentukan semuanya

Lepaskan mereka pergi wahai hati....

Pernah kadang2 fikir..kenapa selalu jadi macam ni. Bila orang tu betul2 tunjuk keikhlasan dia pada kita bertahun2, kita dgn paranoid tolak keikhlasan diorang bulat2. Only sebab kita tak ada perasaan yg sama macam diorang ada untuk kita. dan Dalam tak sedar kita sibuk kejar benda lain yg tak pasti.

Tp mainly sebab aku paranoid, lelaki yg baik macam mana pun, in the end akan jadi berubah and heartless sampai tak ada perasaan pun tinggalkan aku

Kenapa aku selalu mcm ni. Ya Allah, harap aku tak menyinggung perasaan diorang. Harap diorang faham.

2013- Typical new year resolution

it's very typical to write about a new year wishlist, thing to do, to change into a new and a better person. But for me, i'm lost in my thought on how am I suppose to make 2013 different from all those year i've had. I've made up my mind and it came out my things-to do/get this year hopefully is

1) Write a diary 

2) Make a happiness jar - you know, whenever something that makes you happy..you just write it in the piece of paper and put it in the jar. 

3) Not going for a shopping without a list. Buy things only from the list  

4) Stop having a negative thought

 

that's all i can think of. I am not wishing to have a happier life or anything miracle happen to me this year...I believe anything that will happen to me in this year is only a lesson and a phase that i must go through to grow up. To learn and prepare myself in this challenging world. Let's face it, as your age increase in it's number, nothing will be easier. Everything is up to us on how to face it with patience and utilizing our mind and faith to go through all those challenge. 

I hope and pray, that Allah will grant me strength and endurance to face anything that HE already provide for me. And always praising Him no matter how complicated and dark my life would be. But if my destiny is to be happy throughout this year..i'll be very grateful too.

so 2013..here I come :)